This entry is going to be very long, very personal, and filled with a ton of pics. Strap in.
After the 2016 election, I “came out” as “slightly right-wing.” I know. Gasp! Horrors!! A female conservative. Boo! Hiss!!
I ended up writing a post on my Facebook page that basically said (paraphrasing): “I’m a proud American, and I’d have supported whoever was elected. And while I don’t agree with everything President Trump says and does, I’m cautiously optimistic that he’ll do a good job.”
Not too unreasonable, right? Or, so I thought. I lost twenty “friends” immediately after posting that. Go figure.
Worse were the private messages (DMs) I received after posting that statement. One, in particular, said I was a “Nazi racist homophobe.” Ouch.
First of all, calling me a “Nazi”… I’m a quarter German, and I have relatives who actively fought AGAINST the Nazis in World War II. Saying that is an insult to me and what my family fought for. As for “racist,” that’s just balderdash. I have friends of all colors — always have, always will. And “homophobe?” My two best friends are gay! Not to mention, Jesus said to “love everyone.” Jesus didn’t say “love everyone…except the gays.” If He did, I doubt He’d be such a beloved person so long after His death. In my opinion, His message of love and acceptance was pretty clear, and included all of us.
However, admitting that I lean even slightly to the Right brought out a lot of skepticism from the people I thought I knew. I got messages like “I thought you were a good person: what happened?” Um…nothing. I’ve been on the conservative side pretty much my entire life. I just wasn’t open about it until recently. If you liked me before, you should like me now. Literally nothing has changed.
But, from there on out, nearly everything I said was met with private messages deriding me for my opinions.
“Some people are just angry and unreasonable.” was met with “You’re a cunt and you don’t know what you’re talking about.”
“Some feminists seem to have forgotten what feminism is actually supposed to stand for.” was met with “You’re a disgrace to women.”
“I’m a Christian.” was met with “Then you must hate gays.”
“I’ve experienced racism.” was met with “That’s impossible. You’re white.”
And even super innocent, silly, statements like “Queen Latifah is a beautiful woman” were met with comments like “You’re a closet gay.” (Huh?).
It seemed like everything I said was either ignored or met with derision. Many people who had been chatty before were no longer so chatty. And it wasn’t just me; other “right-wing” friends were feeling the scorn as well. Even my leftie friends were starting to fight amongst each other, seeming to forget that we’d all gotten along previously.
It was depressing. It felt like everything was falling apart around me. I kept asking myself, “Why can’t we all just get along like we used to?” We weren’t all CLOSE friends, but, before, we’d all had just enough in common to be civil to one another. I wanted that back.
And then, recently, something changed… (more…)